If you would like to continue thinking bloggers' homes actually look like they do in the lovely photographs we post, you might not want to stop reading. Ok, maybe there are some bloggers who do live that way, but not those with a 3, 4, and 5 year old. ;)
If you follow my Facebook page, you've probably seen my "keepin' it real" photos. First, I posted my lovely dining room, in all it's messy glory. The response from you awesome followers of mine was overwhelming. You thoroughly enjoyed seeing my imperfect house, and SO many left comments, like "Thank GOD!!" or "this makes me so happy" or "wow, you're normal like the rest of us!" or "you have no idea how good this makes me feel, to know your house isn't perfect." And it felt so good to know that people felt better about themselves, and their homes, by seeing mine in its reality. So I thought I'd devote an entire post to the real ND house. If I can make people feel better by airing my dirty laundry (literally!), then by all means, I will do it!
You see, the truth is, when I take these pretty photographs, like this one here...
I have spent time straightening, aka throwing all the kids' coloring books, lego masterpieces, dressups, etc. into a massive pile in the kitchen. I have dusted and vacuumed, and made sure everything is just so. I spend a lot of time working on these projects, and I want it to come across as pretty as it can be. I want to show my readers some lovely pictures.
But fast forward 5 minutes, after the camera clicking is done, and here's what you would see...
Yep. There she is. Is it pretty? Nope. Clean? No way. (Those are SHOES on the dining room table, in case you missed that). Is it real? 100%. I used to mirror Monica Gellar (any Friends fans out there?) in her freakishly clean ways. Then I had a kid. Then I had another kid. Then I had another. And with each kid, I let go more and more. I realized it was more important to play and let them enjoy being kids than to follow them around the house picking up every crumb that fell, and dusting every finger print that appeared on the coffee table (oh man, that would have been a never-ending battle!). The former me wouldn't have dreamed of leaving the bed un-made, or a load of laundry just sitting there.
But you know what's sitting at the foot of my bed at this very moment?
And better yet, let's take a look at the bed too while we're at it.
And my family room pretty much NEVER looks like this...
But a whole lot more like this...
And the perfectly spotless kitchen island?
Is usually covered with sippy cups, half-eaten bowls of goldfish crackers, playdough, school forms...you name it, it likes to find a comfy little spot on this top.
And yes, that was taken at Easter time, hence the plastic eggs and bunny paper bag. I must have foreseen this post back then;). Although, now that I think about it, it wouldn't seem the least bit odd for this house, to have Easter things sitting out in July...
So now it's out there. What our home really looks like, the other 99% of the time. A home that's lived in, that's real, that's us. I hope that "makes your heart happy" (as one of my readers commented on my messy dining room picture)! Next time you're looking at one of my 'new room reveals,' you can chuckle, knowing darn well behind the camera's view is one massive pile of STUFF thrown into a room full of desperately-needing-to-be-dusted furniture, which sits on a horribly-in-need-of-a-vacuum rug.
All too quickly, the day will come when this house is straight and neat all the time once again. So in the meantime, my inner Monica will have to shut up and deal...because I know that the reasons we have this messy house are my life's greatest blessings. And one look at these monkeys of mine is all it takes to make me so very thankful it's this way. It may not be 'magazine picture perfect,' but it's pretty close to perfect to me.






19 comments:
Hey there... I stubled upon your blog from TDC and this is the first post I'm reading. Love your honesty and love your home both before and after camera clicks!
Totally agree Liz! My house looks lived in and messy 99% of the time, and if I need to take a picture a just push everything to the side and out of lens view. Love your honesty girl! Xo
Love, love, love this post! It's so much easier to relate to someone (especially a fellow mom) when you know she's not perfect either. Thank you!
I recently had a friend post an ecard to my FB that said "My house isn't messy...It's custom designed by a 3yr old!" it's so true! But I am sure my 4 and 1 yr old help!
Dear Liz: what a lovely post! I hear you and feel your "joy" lol..in my case is the chaos of just turned 4yo boy, a just turned 17 teenage boy and a hard working construction husband!!! Between Legos, cars, dirt bikes, stero parts (with a boom boom who knows what loud music in the background) and massive steel toe boots and tools..there is little room for flowery coffee tables or inmaculate carpets..but we are happy family and that's all that counts! Again Thank You for keeping it real for all bloggies and not bloggie friends! Hugs...Lizy
Pretty sure you summed it up for about 99.9% of us! I'll just steal this post and change the names :) LOL
THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU!!
I needed this today!!
<3
~pat
I just saw this post shared on Facebook and thought I'd take a look. Well done for showing the truth. :)
You have your priorities straight. Your little ones won't remember a clean house - they'll remember the memories made in your home. Blessings to you!
I love this post! Your house is perfect in all its stages! I am so glad to know that I'm not the only one who has a house that's lived in like that!
Thanks for your post, and for your honesty! It makes those of us who don't have "model" homes feel better!
Best post yet!!! Made me feel so much better!!! :)
Again great post! So question....would you do a post on your 'Chaotic House Management'...like do you have a schedule for picking up? Do you just kill yourself every evening? Do you let it lie? My house looks a ton like yours...only enter orange 70s carpet...and while I want to just make memories...I also feel overwhlemed/frustrated by it. But i'm feeling better to know that I'm not the only one!
Thank you for posting "real" photos, as well as the big reveal ones. Sometimes bloggers make their lives and homes seem so perfect that it is depressing when our homes aren't as neat and orderly.
Ahahaha. It IS nice to know that your house doesn't live in a Home Designs magazine. Although, I will point out, that your photography skills make event the *mess* pictures look glossy pages worthy.
Also, I feel like I owe you a huge sign of credit in my house. Little, "Inspired by Liz" plaques all over... I don't think I realized how many ideas I originally got from you! (R-E-A-D, book cover art, IKEA art table, spice rack book shelves, the art area, chalkboard wall....) Clearly, we should just move in, because it is already all done at your place!
Thanks for all your awesome posts, from quick DIY's, to magazine perfect rooms, to the "Hey! I'm a real person!" We all appreciate it!
Thank you guys SO much!! Glad you enjoyed this post:) And Leron, that's a fabulous idea! I'll try and get working on that post soon! I don't have any super wonderful ideas, but lots of little ones that might help other busy moms. :)
Glad to hear you are one of us Liz! I can completely relate to having an inner Monica, it's so hard to turn her off sometimes but I know this is just a season and my house will be clean again one day!
I just found your blog via pinterest and this is a great post! Your house is beautiful - messy or not! And, you're right -- making memories is so much more important than picking up the house 24/7! I'm excited to tackle some of the projects I've found -- ones that even my non-crafty self can manage!!
Liz, I found your blog a few weeks ago and am addicted. I LOVE your decorating ideas, but I too think your real life photos/stories are even better. Though my children are grown now, I have a 4-yr-old granddaughter whom I adore, and I can totally related to my house being far from spotless but at least neat before she comes to visit, then looking much like your photos after she leaves. But I wouldn't have it any other way.
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